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I had total trust in the Education System

on April 12, 2015

This has been quite therapeutic starting this blog.  Having gained so much experience about how the education system works, and I hate to think of all those lost parents out there who don’t know which way to turn. I felt like a failure as a parent for so long and buried my head in the sand. But it was my daughter’s determination and desire to go to school every day and keep trying, that finally made me open my eyes and start to battle for her.

Questioning the school and education system totally went against who I was as a person. I had total trust in the school, and believed that they were doing the right thing.

I feel so angry at the education system, and the lack of real support they have for children and parents. Obviously funding is the main concern, but surely to have the right support from an early age will save the Government money in the long run.

I had written my story as a blog (below), but it seemed too patchy for people to dip in to. So I have put it all together and amended it slightly (spell checked it), and it is now stored under a separate tab ‘A Long Battle – The Whole Story‘.  Sorry it is so long, I’m not very good at being concise.

I hope it helps people that are on that journey already, to feel not so alone. Also I hope it reaches people that just feel maybe something isn’t quite right and their child isn’t keeping up in some way.

I hope this helps you see what questions you should be asking.

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4 responses to “I had total trust in the Education System

  1. Carol says:

    What a brilliant read! I am just at the start of getting help with my 9yr olds dyslexia who was officially diganosed in January ( even tho the senco had tested him the previous year and said she was impressed with him and he was not dyslexic!) it’s draining that we have to fight so hard to get any additional help.
    Best of luck to your daughter and well done you!!

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    • Julie says:

      Hi Carol, thank you for your comment. I hope you’ve got some support there. Local Dyslexia Groups are brilliant as they are experienced and can give impartial advice. I have just found an amazing group on facebook called ‘Dyslexia support UK (UK only)’. They seem to have a few very knowledgeable people on there, and they answer questions quickly too, which is important when you’re pulling your hair out.
      I really hope you get the support you need quickly

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  2. jaynefranks says:

    Hi As an adult with dyslexia, who survived school not knowing I was so wired can I stress that boosting your children’s self confidence and self belief is just as important in my opinion as helping them to develop educational coping strategies. Educational support will undoubtedly help a dyslexic learn more effectively and pass more exams better than they might otherwise would, but in truth, it may never make many of us dyslexics into great spellers or make us really feel comfortable with numbers or make it easy to accurately put our thoughts into writing. Sooo Please don’t forget to give as much attention to teaching your children how to be more personally resilient. Getting good grades is important but its not the whole story. The most harm and loss of individual potential arises, I’ve come to appreciate, is when we haven’t been taught or don’t know how to manage out own damming self derogatory thoughts especially when we see and understand we are not ‘performing’ as well as we might like or how well the system tells us we should be. Your child we be able to do something that right handed brained kids find more difficult. My suggestion is to try to draw their attention to what ever this might be and teach them to use it wisely so they can excel,and raise confidence.

    Wishing you well on your journey. 🙂

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    • Julie says:

      Jayne, thank you, a very good point very well made.
      My daughter left junior school totally believing she was stupid. No matter what I did or said would help. The biggest turning point for her confidence was when she met other dyslexic children. That was the first time I think she didn’t feel like the odd one out, and she could see that dyslexia definitely doesn’t mean stupid.
      From my experience with dyslexic adults, they are usually leaders and people who think outside the box, not just follow the rules.
      I see dyslexia as an asset. We just need the right support in schools, so children don’t get left behind and have their self esteems crushed.
      Thank you so much for your comment 🙂 x

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